you're killing it, fellow mom
Motherhood is wonderful and the best and my favorite thing ever, but it's hard. Not only is it hard and demanding, but we're often fielding insults and judgments and rude comments from others for our choices. Sometimes it seems like moms spend more time slinging snide comments to each other than building each other up. I'll be the first to admit I'm not fully innocent. And if there is ANYTHING moms need, it's encouragement. In the words of my dear friend Anna, WHERE IS THE MOM SOLIDARITY?
Instead of getting huffy about working vs. staying at home or natural birth vs. epidural (which is what, a fake birth?), we should start complimenting each other. Excessively. Because! Maybe that mom you're annoyed with is dealing with a lot of heavy things like losing family and spending days wondering if the postpartum depression is trying to come back. Or maybe she's not! But even on our best days, we could all use some encouragement. Raising a human is NOT EASY AND WE NEED HELP.
-Wait a minute! You're telling me you got yourself showered and dressed and fed and clothed and fed your baby and kept your baby alive all day? You are a literal superhero.
-You work full-time? You are an amazing and responsible mom doing what's best for your family and you have nothing to be ashamed about.
-You stay at home? You are an amazing and responsible mom doing what's best for your family and you have nothing to be ashamed about.
-You carried that baby for 9 months and gave birth (or adopted!) and you've kept your kid fed with formula or nursing or both or grass-fed gluten-free organic free-range goat's milk and you're all alive and relatively happy? GO BUY YOURSELF A COFFEE. And a cookie. On me! Let's celebrate!
We are killing it. All of us. Motherhood looks different for every one of us because our lives are different and require different things. We all love our kids more than life. WE'VE GOT THIS.