1.16.2018

coffee date



I see people write these coffee date posts all the time, and they're always some of my favorites. Mostly because the word coffee is involved and usually it's just about how life is going, and those are the best kinds of posts. I don't care about the 5 shirts you bought at the Nordstrom sale and why I need to buy them too...TELL ME HOW YOUR KIDS ARE SLEEPING AT NIGHT.

Just kidding. That's a sore spot for me right now.

I love listening in on people's coffee orders. What do you order at a coffee shop? I never actually order straight coffee. I do at restaurants all the time (with a dash of half and half but no sugar), but at a Starbucks or coffee shop, I get an iced coffee in the summer and a latte or flat white any other time of the year. Sometimes a cappuccino if I'm feeling extra fancy. I like my coffee bold and strong. I hate most flavored coffee, and I can't stand any kind of sweetener. I am woman, hear me roar.

Ok, so what's up with you? How's your work/kids/marriage/school/friendships/etc going? What are you reading? And watching? Actually tell me! In the comments! This is a 2 way street, you know. I babble enough as it is. We're all friends here.

I heard a lot of people start talking about The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel on Amazon Prime, so we started it the other night. Let me put in a disclosure that I DO NOT condone the language and nudity of this show and because of those things I don't even want to say I'm recommending it. It bothered me. I probably shouldn't have watched the show. I almost turned it off because 10 minutes into the first episode there were two nudity scenes and I wondered if I had deeply misunderstood the premise of the show. I pushed on, which I normally wouldn't recommend, and it paid off greatly.

If you haven't seen it, it's about a rich family on the Upper West Side of NYC during the 1950s and a female who tries to become a comedian. It's written by the writers of Gilmore Girls, and the dialogue is every bit as fast-paced and quick-witted as you hope it is. What got me the most were the costumes and set. GORGEOUS. My jaw was on the floor at the dresses and furniture and interiors. I may have been born in the 80s, but my soul was born in the 50s. Or 40s. Possible 20s. Okay, the point is, I felt like I had actually been transported to 1956 and I didn't want to leave.

Here's what I didn't expect: it helped me fall in love with my house again. I have struggled since we moved in for various reasons, but so many parts of the show reminded me why I love that time period, and our house is a time capsule from that era. My brain was suddenly full of ideas of how I want to continue renovating while keeping everything true to its mid century roots. It was a lightbulb moment for me.

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Last week they told us we were supposed to get an ice storm plus 1-2 feet of snow. The entire state was in a frenzy. For the first time, I got nervous. A storm like that is just asking for power outages, and we have no secondary heat source yet, and our house is already not great at holding in heat. The grocery store was nearly bare four days before the storm. The morning the storm was supposed to hit, they suddenly went from 1-2 feet to 1-2 INCHES. I mean of course. We wound up with some ice and 5ish inches. It was a legitimate blizzard with crazy winds and snow so heavy I couldn't see across the street. I loved it. The lights flickered a few times, but we never lost power. We got another storm yesterday. This time they were predicting one inch and we got at least four. I shoveled our entire huge, circular driveway all by myself so James could get his car in. I was so proud. Our neighbor has a plow on his riding lawn mower (welcome to the country) and helped me clear the areas around the garage so I could get my car out. I was so grateful. Winter with a long driveway is basically free Crossfit.

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My mom made it through surgery yesterday. I was a wreck and trying to distract myself as much as possible. I wound up calling my grandma, because I needed a comforting voice. I do not talk to her enough. I share her with my cousins and all our kids, but I always forget that because she makes me feel like her only grandchild. We talked about house stuff, which was fun because our kitchens are practically identical. We have the EXACT same cabinets and hardware. They're ugly, but the fact that my grandma has the same kitchen is half the reason I bought this house. She told me she used to ROUTINELY take the hardware off the cabinets and clean it. I'm talking about unscrewing every handle and cleaning it thoroughly. It never would have crossed my mind to do something like that. Now I feel like I live in filth. Talking to her made my day so much better. If you have a living grandparent--go call them. They will love it and so will you. Any future grandchildren of mine who are reading this 50 years from now---CALL ME.

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I'm still in love with my hair. I accidentally put a little too much heat on it with my curling iron the other day, so it's fading a little faster than I expected. I woke up this morning feeling anxious and down, so I showered and did my hair and makeup. It did wonders for my mood. Then I ran to the post office and ran into my high school math teacher. Thankfully it was the one I liked and NOT the one who made me cry in class at least once a week. He gave me a wide-eyed stare. I returned it. He's older and possibly even retired now, and I feel like all the older people look at my hair, lamenting about the kids these days and their wild ways.



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I've been really trying to talk to Gracie more about God lately. We sing hymns, we pray together, and James reads her the Jesus Storybook Bible most days. All of a sudden she's had lots of questions. I told her about how God made the sun, moon, and all the stars in the sky. "Did God buy them?" "Nope, He made them." "But did He buy them in a store?" I love how her little brain tries to figure it all out. She's been asking a lot if Jesus is at home. I tell her yes, He's at home in heaven. "Oh, we're going to go have soup with him in two days." That's fine by me, though it sounds a little like a death prophecy.

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This isn't that interesting, but for the people who know me it might be. I HAVE BEEN VERY SOCIAL LATELY. Like really social. We're talking multiple play dates/social activities a week. I think I've been using socializing as a bit of a distraction/coping mechanism lately, but I'm not complaining because it's been really good for me. That's probably why I've had some headaches and have felt extra exhausted lately, but it's helping me beat the winter blues. The winter blues are REAL this year, and that's coming from a lover of winter.

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I wrote this while drinking a cup of coffee, because I am nothing if not ~authentic~ and so genuine. My cup is now empty and my daughter sounds like she's up to no good in her room. And I have a raging headache and dinner to make, so I'm signing off for now. Let's do this again. Preferably with a bigger cup of coffee next time.


14 comments:

  1. +That is a fabulous picture of you! I still love your rainbow hair.
    + I started reading the Nothing to Envy book, per your recommendation and I am liking it so far!
    + why is G the cutest? All of her God/Jesus questions are the best 💖

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    1. Thank you thank you!
      Oh I'm happy to hear that! It's a sad book, but so interesting and worth it. People need to know what's going on over there!
      They are so funny. She's had other good questions I can't remember and it's driving me nuts. I need to be better about writing them down.

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  2. How fun is your hair!!! I love it!
    Glad your momma is ok - its always so scary when parents have something wrong with them.
    EVERYONE is talking about that show on Amazon Prime - I've downloaded a few episodes but haven't watched any yet.

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  3. I'm so in love with your hair!! It's seriously making me want to color mine. I wonder if I did a dark blue or something if I could do it myself and not royally screw it up...

    G's questions about God are adorable. I hope her questions stay that simple and easy to answer for a while ;)

    Tell me your secrets to being social. I have been SO anti-social since getting back into town. I want to see nobody, I want to talk to nobody. Of course after I told you that "people" haven't been showing up to my house unannounced, "they" have done it twice since then. Eye rolls.


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  4. Ah, I want snow! They keep saying we'll get some, and then we don't. I'm working on a coffee date post this week, so I'll save some stuff for that, but..reading -Murder On The Links by Agatha Christie. Watching - The Bachelor. 🙈

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  5. Your hair is really fun. It's always fun to mix things up now and then and I bet it's great for winter. These winter blues are so so bad this year. Like so many people I know have it. It's rough.

    Be patient with your house. It takes a year+ to feel settled but it will get there. That first year in our new home was hard. It was hard when things broke. It was hard because we fought about those broken things and so on. BUT it got better and yours will too. Just be patient and keep taking it one day at a time.

    COFFEE - At home I use a camping perculator. It makes the best coffee and I don't even know how to spell that correctly. I always add cream and sugar because that is what us Brazilians do. Also, when I go to Starbucks I order a caramel macchiato with half the syrup pumps. However, on Sunday I ordered a vanilla latte with their new blonde espresso and it was really velvetty and creamy. Lastly, if I go to a real coffee shop in town I order a raw sugar breve with whipped cream AND IT CHANGED MY LIFE! HA

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  6. this is so funny that you wrote this when you did! my last post was going to be a coffee date, but then i had the epiphany about my rough draft problem, and needed to write that. but these are my favorite posts too! i LOVE your hair. it's just beautiful, and hasn't even faded! i normally would be having an americano while on a coffee date with you (little cream, maybe some raw sugar), but if it were friday or if i needed some more protein that day, i'd get a skim latte, no sugar. i'm with you, i want to taste the coffee!

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    1. Thank you thank you!!! It's been so much fun and exactly the change I needed. Ok--my husband always gets an americano, but they freak me out. Water instead of milk? It seems so weird to me! I need to get over myself and try it sometime.

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  7. I like coffee with half&half, no sugar. Bleh. Except at Starbucks because I hate their coffee, so I get a latte or something.
    I enjoy Mrs. Maisel, but I'm not totally hooked yet. I think I'm halfway through the 3rd or 4th episode. It's ok and it's entertaining, but I don't feel a desire to binge it or anything. Lol
    Gracie's death prophecies and God questions are so cute! I LOVE your hair!!
    We got that 2 to 3 feet of snow up by us, lol. It's continued to snow a little bit each day since then. Thank God for all-wheel drive cars ;)

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  8. Weather people are always getting it wrong. I’m beginning to think they do it on purpose! I’m glad our storm fizzled out though, since I had to go out in it to the dentist of all places.

    I do the same thing with shows. I don’t get why Netflix and Amazon think because they aren’t on actual tv that means we want to see all the nakedness and hear all the f-bombs! It seriously has ruined some of the best shows in my opinion. Have you watched The Crown yet? I loved it! I also just finished watching Parenthood for the 4th time all the way through. I’m far more likely to watch a show I know I love than to start something new.

    As far as kids and God, Nick informed me Evelyn prays for a new baby sibling each night. So now we know if that “procedure” fails sometime (which is currently my worst fear by the way) it was all thanks to her.

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  9. This is so delightful! I love these kinds of posts, even though I can never seem to write them. Anywho, what I get at a coffee shop depends on where I am...at the local place I usually frequent, I get a 12 oz. coffee. Not exciting, but it's tasty and not hugely expensive and also, whenever I go in there the man automatically rings up that order because it's ALWAYS what I get, so I'd feel like I'm inconveniencing him to change it up :P Now if I go to another local coffee shop (which I used to meet a friend at a lot until she moved away as a missionary), I'd actually get the "candy coffee" because they have tons of tasty combinations like "blackberry cobbler" (I didn't think it would be as good as it was) and "mintage" and "toffee." On the rare occasion that we go to Starbucks (which only happens if we have a gift card, since I'm not a huge fan of SB), my husband and I share a caramel frappuccino.

    Moving along...have you started watching the new season of Victoria? Yesterday I was not feeling well so I declared that the toddler and I would watch the first episode during lunch and before dinner, and he was seriously getting into it almost as much as I was. I almost jumped with delight when I saw Rufus Sewell's name in the opening credits, because I didn't know if they would bring Lord M back at all in this season. The other show that I've been watching off-and-on is the 1990s animated Batman, which is on Prime. It has incredible music, excellent story lines, and it's just beautiful. Also, Mark Hamill as the Joker is fabulous :) I'm glad that you're enjoying the Mrs. Maisel show! When I first heard it recommended weeks ago, I started the first episode but after the first 10 minutes turned it off. I don't know that I'd go back to it, since I have so many other great things to watch (ie: Batman, Victoria, and of course there's always Doctor Who and Firefly to rewatch), but the costumes do sound amazing. I've also been reading a ton. I FINALLY read the first Mitford book, and now I think I'll have to put life on hold while I read the rest of them. Have you read those books? They seem totally like the kind of books you'd read.

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  10. Soup with Jesus sounds awesome. It also sounds like a book title.

    I'm glad your mom's surgery went well. Conversations with grandma's are the best.

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  11. I don't drink coffee or anything remotely coffee flavored, so I always feel a bit like a weirdo if I go to a coffee shop with my friends and ask for an ice water.
    I love talking to kids about God and Jesus! It's fun and heartwarming and also occasionally totally hilarious. We have this book called "Right Choices" which frames all sorts of childhood decisions in terms of right choices/wrong choices and considers what God says in the Bible about these sorts of situations that I read with the kids every day and the kids absolutely love it--like they cheer when I get out the book because they love shouting "Right Choices!" or "Wrong choices!" depending on what the kids in the picture are doing today--like hitting their brother or helping mom set the table. I had no idea 4-year-olds would take this book so seriously. ha!

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  12. I just love Gracie and her death prophecies.

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